Do you know the story of the duck?  I used to be a duck myself, always

 seeming to glide along the water effortlessly going to and fro, but all the while my feet were paddling wildly underneath.  It was exhausting.  The truth is that the duck is overwhelmed. 

Overwhelm comes from a variety of things.  A big one is feeling

 misunderstood.  If you feel your friends and family are not supportive enough (or at all) that alone can create a sense of streess and isolation, which is terribly overwhelming.  Especially, if all you are trying to do is make everyone happy.

To make matters worse, if you are like me, the people pleasing type, you may be creating stressful situations for yourself without even knowing it!  You may have the bad habit of taking on too much, even doing everything yourself simply in order to get it done right (I know, it’s just easier to do it that way)!

But did you know this is actually a type of perfectionism and leads to you beating yourself up unnecessarily?

Why?  Because there is no such thing as perfect!  (I know you know this intellectually, but trust me, perfectionism disguises itself very easily!)  Mastering the art of self-compassion was definitely one of the things that changed everything and has made a huge difference in my life.  

It wasn’t until I worked with a coach who helped me connect these dots in my own world that I was finally able to stop the constant shame and guilt that always seemed to spiral out of control (I was so sick and tired of it all).

Trust me, there was nothing I hadn’t already tried:  writing lists, overcompensating (MORE exhausting) and even withdrawing.  Playing small so as to not “mess up” is simply no way to live.

Today, I can appreciate the road I was on, that life of a duck.  Because now I help people who struggle just as I did! 

Obviously, a coach offers a level of support unlike any other relationship you have, because I not only relate but educate as we work together.  Just learning about ADHD in a personal way can make a tremendous difference in your life.  Learning the skills (the tools) that you can use in any situation forever changes how you look at things, which in turn change the choices you make. 

If you are ready to flip the script and partner in accountability and strategic alliance, let’s talk about how coaching may be the powerful experience you are ready for!